10 Things Every Man Over 40 Should Know

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When I turned 40, I thought I had it all figured out. I had a career, a family, and I’d already ticked a lot of the boxes society expects from us. But let me tell you this: hitting 40 isn’t the end of the story — it’s a new chapter. Now that I’m 51, I can look back and honestly say these last ten years have been some of the most eye-opening of my life.

Men over 40 often find themselves in a strange middle ground. We’re no longer the young guys chasing every trend, but we’re also far from “old.” And the truth is, these years can be some of the most rewarding if you approach them with the right mindset. That’s why I wanted to share with you 10 things every man over 40 should know. This isn’t a lecture, just lessons I’ve picked up — through trial, error, and plenty of laughs along the way.

1. Your Health is Your Wealth

It’s easy to ignore health in your 20s and 30s. You bounce back quickly, late nights don’t show on your face, and exercise feels optional. Once you hit 40, though, the rules change. Recovery takes longer, weight doesn’t shift as easily, and small aches can turn into big problems if ignored.

That’s why regular check-ups are no longer negotiable. Heart health, cholesterol, blood pressure — these matter. It’s not about being paranoid; it’s about being smart. I’ll be honest: I didn’t always take my health seriously. But when you’ve got a family depending on you, or you want to still feel good in your 50s and beyond, health has to come first.

2. Skincare Isn’t Optional

Most men shrug at skincare until they realise the wrinkles and dark circles are sticking around. For me, skincare became a non-negotiable in my 40s. A good face wash, a reliable moisturizer, and a night cream make a huge difference. Try the amazing Brickell Men's Daily Elite Face Care Routine II (available on Amazon)

This isn’t vanity — it’s maintenance. Just like you’d service your car, you should look after your skin. I try skincare for a living, so I can tell you first-hand: when you wake up with fresher, healthier skin, you feel more confident walking into your day.

3. Dress for Yourself, Not for Trends

In your 20s and 30s, it’s easy to fall into the trap of chasing trends. Oversized sneakers, ripped jeans, whatever Instagram is shouting about. But at 40, you start to appreciate timeless style.

Here’s the truth: fit beats fashion every time. A well-fitted shirt, a clean pair of chinos, or a classic overshirt will do more for your look than chasing what’s “in.” I’m a big fan of keeping things versatile — clothes that you can wear to dinner, to the office, or on a weekend trip. That’s style you can rely on.

4. Relationships Need Work

Whether you’re married, in a relationship, or single, one thing doesn’t change: relationships take effort. After 40, it’s easy to slip into routines, to let Netflix replace conversation, or to assume your partner knows how you feel.

Trust me on this: never stop putting in the effort. Plan a date night, write a note, or simply listen without distraction. With kids and work, it’s easy to let intimacy slide, but it’s the little gestures that keep a relationship alive.

5. Money Management Becomes Serious

By 40, most men have learned a few financial lessons — sometimes the hard way. This is the decade where you need to get serious about managing money. Saving, investing, planning for retirement, or even just tracking your expenses — it matters more than ever.

I’m not talking about becoming obsessed with numbers, but being intentional. Don’t put it off.

6. Mental Health is Not a Weakness

Men are notoriously bad at talking about mental health. But here’s the reality: ignoring stress, burnout, or emotional struggles only makes things worse. After 40, you need to prioritise your mental health as much as your physical.

For me, journaling (The Five Minute Journal by Intelligent Change) became a way to unload my thoughts and keep perspective. For others, it might be therapy, meditation, or simply regular walks. Whatever works for you — just don’t bottle it up. Strong men aren’t the ones who stay silent, they’re the ones who take action.

7. Technology is Your Friend (But Don’t Let It Rule You)

I love tech — phones, speakers, earbuds, you name it. But I’ve also learned that being constantly connected isn’t healthy. At 40+, it’s about finding balance. Use tech to make your life easier — smartwatches to track your fitness, apps to help with productivity — but also learn when to unplug.

I’ve cut back on aimless scrolling, deleted apps I don’t need, and I’ve felt the benefits. Technology should serve you, not the other way around.

8. Confidence Comes From Experience, Not Ego

One of the best things about being over 40 is that you stop caring so much about what others think. You’ve lived enough to know what matters, and you’ve probably made enough mistakes to know what doesn’t.

Real confidence at this age comes from experience — from knowing your strengths, owning your flaws, and carrying yourself with authenticity. Forget ego. People respect honesty far more than bravado.

9. Sex & Intimacy Evolve

Let’s be honest: sex in your 40s isn’t the same as in your 20s. But that doesn’t mean it’s worse — in many ways, it gets better. It’s less about performance, more about connection.

Talking openly with your partner, being willing to explore new things, and embracing sexual wellness products (for her) or (for you) can make a big difference. I’ve written openly about this on my blog because I believe intimacy is part of a healthy, happy life — and it’s nothing to be ashamed of.

10. There’s Still Time

If there’s one thing I want every man over 40 to take away, it’s this: you’re not too late. Whether it’s learning a new skill, starting a business, travelling, or getting in shape — there’s still time.

I quit my job at 50 to become a full-time blogger, something I’d dreamed about for years. And you know what? It was the best decision I ever made. Life doesn’t stop at 40. In many ways, it’s just getting started.

Conclusion

Being over 40 isn’t about slowing down — it’s about living smarter, sharper, and more intentionally. These ten lessons aren’t rules set in stone, they’re simply truths I’ve discovered along the way.

Some are practical — like skincare and health. Others are more personal — like relationships and mental wellbeing. But together, they shape a life that feels fuller and more rewarding.

So, whether you’re already in your 40s or just approaching them, remember this: it’s not about clinging to youth, it’s about embracing who you are today — with confidence, wisdom, and a little style.

Jerome

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